Hello! The reason that I’ve been m.i.a is that I recently had a baby. It has been a rollercoaster ride of emotions for me these past few months being pregnant and going through various personal issues in my life.
Having my little girl is bittersweet because I also got my tubes tied, so she will be my last. Although I think two kids are enough for me, there is something that makes me a little sad when I think of something so final. Nevertheless, we are in love with this little girl and we are blessed to have two healthy children.
With that said, let us be real. Do you sometimes feel inadequate as a parent? Have you experienced “baby blues”? My answers are yes and yes. Social media will make you feel like you are lagging behind in the parenting world. Do you make bento boxes for your kid’s lunch each day? Should I? Do you continually gush about how much you love your child on FB? Am I supposed to? After I had my first child, I didn’t feel as happy as everyone thought I should be and then I felt guilty about that feeling. Was I supposed to feel like this was the best time of my life? First of all, I had a c-section and my body felt as though I was hit by a bus for about 2 weeks. I was bleeding and leaking from several orifices on my body (I know TMI, but I’m making a point). I see moms gushing on social media about every move their infant makes and how happy they are to experience blah, blah, blah. Did anyone just feel overwhelmed? My son would get frustrated and cry and then I would cry. There were some difficult times with my first child. I just couldn’t seem to get it together, meanwhile, other moms were making homemade organic baby food. What was my problem? I had “baby blues” and didn’t really understand it at first.
Even though I was worried about having postpartum depression with this child, I was blessed not to. I talked to my doctor before and I had a lot of support from family and friends. I feel good this time around because of “my village” of people around me. My mother and sisters have come over to help clean up, take care of my toddler, keep me company and whatever I have needed. My husband has completely taken over the house duties and has given me time to rest and heal. This time I know that I will be alright and I feel more confident in myself, but I couldn’t have felt this way without family and friends.
I suggest that if you are pregnant to stay aware of feelings of sadness or depression. It can be upon you and it can be scary. Don’t be afraid to talk to your family, friends or your doctor. You have people on your side even if you may feel alone.
Just know that you got this and don’t be afraid to ask for help.